Why the Rage?
- Ashlee Cooper
- Oct 6
- 2 min read
Updated: Oct 7
To be honest, just writing this makes me angry.
The fact that it is not obvious that it is a trauma to take a baby from their mother and give them to a stranger, makes me really angry. The fact that people think that if they can't make one, they will just buy one, so fucking angry.
The idea that a baby is interchangeable based on inconvenience, socio-economic class, shame, greed, politics and lies is well, infuriating.
Let's talk about the ridiculous narrative that goes something like "but what about the unwanted babies and the people who so desperately want to have a child, isn't it a win-win?"
I am not addressing foster care. The numbers of children in need are crushing. Everyone knows there are foster children to adopt. For the most part, people unable to have their own babies want a brand new baby. One without all that trauma and behavioral issues (or so they think, just wait). So they tell themselves that they are saving a baby in need and filling their baby shaped void, win-win. Except the demand is 60 to 1. There is no need. There. Is. No. Need.
So, how do private adoptions happen if there are not an amount of babies in need that matches the number of people in "need"? Coerision, shame, and money, that's how. Oh, and social media.
Better writers than me have covered this so I will link to some articles.
TLDR: When someone tells you they are adopted, know they suffered a trauma. Don't repeat the dumbass win-win narrative in any form. No brightsiding. If you think you want to save a newborn baby by private adoption, there is no need. Most supply is created by praying on vulnerable women.